Does this sound scary to you, or complicated – or too good to be true? Or does it sound like an empowering concept. The truth is, life is a co-creation. It is created in equal measures by the universe/source/God and our own mind.
But right now, more often than not we’re leaving this creation completely up to chance. We don’t ask the universe for anything specific nor do we use our mind to create what we want.
In truth, we don’t even know what we want.
Not true, you say? You know what you want – money, success, true love?
But what do you mean?
Next, ask yourself what you want to do with the money. Start with one specific thing. You can always add more later, there are no limits. But for now, let’s start with one thing. For example, you may want to pay off your debt. This could be paying off a loan, all your credit cards, the cash family and friends lent you, your overdraft or your mortgage. Or you may want to enough money to send your kids to college, or to take a trip around the world, or to buy a new home. Whatever it is, have a clear use for the money in mind.
"Dear universe, I have a huge desire to pay off all my debt before the fall. Please send me X amount of money [be specific] to clear my debt by September."
And what makes you feel these things? Come up with at least one concrete thing for each way you want to feel. If you want to feel safe, is that with someone who is physically big and strong or someone who earns a lot of money? Or perhaps someone who is loyal and trustworthy?
In general, we all receive and give love in one (or more) of these ways:
Be clear on your own love language, how you give and show that you love. And get clear on how you want to receive love.
Then state your request. This can be done in your thoughts or out loud, but use actual words and sentences even if you’re just thinking them. Like so:
“Dear universe, I am open and ready to receive love. Please send me a guy/a woman who … [be specific].”
Here is an example of what you could say:
"Dear universe, I am open and ready to receive love. Please send me a guy who is sexy. Who accepts my body as is, and I will accept his.
A guy who is unquestionably loyal, where I can place my trust and who I will be loyal to.
A guy who takes action and sticks to a schedule. Who sorts out problems and can handle conflict with courage and wisdom.
A guy who praises me and pays me sincere compliments.
A guy who likes talking about emotions and knows what he feels.”
Now that you’re clear about your dream and have sent the message to the Universe, surrender. Let go. Release your wish to the Universe and trust in the process. It’s not your job to know how this dream will manifest. This is the part for the universe to do. Know that life happens for you not to you and the Universe is working in your favor!
1: Never ask for what you don’t want. Ask in the positive and avoid words like no, not, don’t, never etc.
For example, don’t say, I want a guy who would never hurt me. Instead say, I want a guy who treasures me and respects my feelings.
So instead of just the generic words abundant and wealthy, say what this means to you specifically. E.g. I want to feel abundant and wealthy with savings that are always above X [specific amount] in my bank account. While you say it immerse yourself in the feeling of abundance that this amounts gives you.
2. Don’t feel guilty for asking, or unworthy of receiving. The universe is helping us all the time. It would rather give us what we want than guess. It wants to work with us. You are not a burden nor are you asking for too much. And you are not taking anyone else’ share. There is enough for everyone. The universe has created planets made entirely of gold and others where it rains diamonds (yes, really). That’s the level of abundance the universe creates. Whatever you’re asking is fine. You’re allowed.
We all know people who were glad to get redundancy money and finally start their own business, or cut the commute and look for a job closer to home, or go into early retirement. Others throw in the towel. Some people are always optimistic, others always complain. We think we have no choice, that is “just the way we are” or worse, that’s just the way the word is. But then, why doesn’t everyone have the same reaction as we do? The truth is, we make choices and with that we create how the world looks to us. We create our own reality.
Sometimes we’re not specific enough. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves with our underlying beliefs in negative consequences if what we want would actually come true. And sometimes it just take the universe more time to deliver.
" I’m ready to do the work! Send me someone to live with so I can work on these issues. So the universe send me a (female) roommate! "
What I had really wanted was a romantic relationship! But I had forgotten to mention this detail in my request to the universe… So that didn’t manifest. What manifested was an awesome fun roommate who was very lively and energetic and often needed me to be there for her. The exact thing I had asked for.
Now over to you! Have you managed to manifest what you want? Or did you manifest something you didn’t actually want in that way? Leave a comment below.